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Now that you know a woman’s body can take much longer than a man’s to heat up, you’ll understand that the female orgasm is all about sustaining her arousal. And one of the easiest ways to do that, according to Dr. Patti Britton, PhD, clinical sexologist and co-founder of SexCoachU.com, is a surprisingly G-rated return to the first-base basics, which will help her feel more connected to you as her excitement builds…and builds…and builds. “Keep going back to kissing, and make it an ongoing part of the sexual act—not just foreplay,” Britton says. “It sounds so mundane, but kissing is important to her—it send that bioelectric shock through her body—and it too often gets left out in today’s rushed world.”
4. Compliment Her Body
When you’re in the midst of the act, you’re probably thinking a combination of “Yes! It’s happening!” and “Well done, bro! She’s hot.” But a woman’s mind, on the other hand, might be somewhere in between, “Oh no. Does my ass look huge?” and “I hope he doesn’t notice [insert insecurity here].” Since study after study has shown that even minor body image issues can inhibit her ability to enjoy sex, get aroused, and reach orgasm, do what you can—in the moment—to make her feel attractive and comfortable. You think she’s hot, right? So tell her…again and again. It all goes back to what Kerner already said: Relaxing her brain is key to relaxing—and arousing—her body.
5. Don’t Rush Downtown
“A lot of men approach oral sex as an act of foreplay,” says Kerner. “But direct clitoral stimulation might not feel good at the start of sex.” So spend at least five minutes kissing, caressing, and working the rest of her body first. And since so many women claim that receiving oral sex is the best way to consistently orgasm (not sure about your lady? just ask!) Kerner also suggests that you consider making it your game-time performance—and not just a warm-up drill.
6. Lube Up First
So we’ve already said to take it slow, with lots of foreplay. But what’s the exact game plan? Britton likes to teach her clients to treat it like a step-by-step process: Hands, then mouth, then penis, with one key ingredient thrown into the mix from the get-go. “A good, slippery, long-lasting lube is so important,” she says. “If your finger is dry and she’s not amply aroused, which she won’t be at this point, it can be painful—and one uncomfortable misstep is all it takes to shut her down.”
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When Barry Komisaruk, PhD, a behavioral neuroscientist at Rutgers University and author of The Science of Orgasm, mapped women’s brains in a study, he found that stimulating the clitoris, vagina, cervix, and nipples all activated slightly different parts of the brain. That’s cool science, sure, but why should you care? It’s simple: By employing your penis and two hands to hit these hot spots all at once, that pleasure center in her head is going to light up like a Fourth of July fireworks display. “Women have said they can orgasm from each of these separately, but when you combine them, so many more neurons and nerve cells are responding,” says Komisaruk. “That means the resulting orgasm is going to be that much stronger and more enjoyable.”
8. Rotate Your Oral Approach
When you do eventually go down on her, Britton recommends this secret method: Lie horizontal (like from 3-9 o’clock), so that you’re still licking up and down—but your tongue is going across her clitoris. “In one study I conducted, 50% of women had more rapid and more intense orgasms from that positioning,” she says.
9. Try Doggy Style
Position is certainly a personal preference, says Komisaruk, but there’s some science that makes a case for foregoing good old missionary—and entering her from behind. “Pushing forward toward the front wall of the vagina stimulates a much more complex combination of the vaginal, clitoral, urethral, and prostate areas than in the other direction,” he says. And when it comes to intercourse in general, Britton adds this simple—but sage—advice that pays dividends: “Rock, don’t pound,” she says, “and she’ll love it.” (In fact, you might also want to encourage her get on top, which will increase clitoral stimulation—and allow her to control the speed and motion.)
10. Read Her—Then Hit it Home
Follow all of the advice we just gave you, and you should get her into what Kerner calls “the 90-second window”—that oh-so-crucial period where she’s this close to coming. The key, though, is recognizing it. For many women, reaching orgasm requires a sense of inward focus, so you won’t necessary hear moans or shouts. “Her eyes will close, you’ll sense muscular tension throughout the body, and—if engaging in manual or oral stimulation—you might feel entire pelvic floor tightening,” says Kerner. At this point, she’s almost there, and the best way to push her past the finish line is to apply pressure against the clitoris. So keep doing what you’re doing, but provide a point of solid resistance, says Kerner. Let her do the work until she comes—and then prepare for round two. (Yes, women can have multiple orgasms.)
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